”Reality Check: you can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not a cure for life.~Phillip C. McGraw, The Ultimate Weight Loss Solution: The 7 Keys to Weight Loss Freedom, 2003
Losing weight is not the answer to the many daily problems that you must face. It just isn’t. But it can make your life more enjoyable and open up more opportunities for you. It’s up to you to use them and better your life.
For example if you kids are driving you mad, buzzing with energy, losing weight will level the playing field. You will have more energy and you can, if you want, engage on a different level with your children. When they are naughty you can catch them. You can also go hiking and engage in many physical activities that will strengthen the bond between you.
Like in weight loss, the only way to change your life is by taking action. That is the subtle lesson that you get if you succeed to lose weight and keep it off. Things won’t just miraculously happen. It takes constant action towards the goals that you desire.
You have to be careful too. By losing weight you change a big part of your life. The more weight you lose the more you will change your life. You can’t be the same person and lose weight. It just isn’t possible. All this change will leak to some degree in all your mundane life and change it to some degree.
If you are married you have to give your partner lots of reassurance while you are losing weight. Kind of funny advice you might be thinking. But the truth is that a staggering number of marriages fail after one of the partners loses a lot of weight. And it is usually triggered by the partner that is not losing weight.
I could never understand this behavior or what drives it but it exists. I have seen it all my life in my parents. My mother has always been a little more heavier and my father more athletic. After she gave birth to me my mother gained quite some weight. After that she tried to lose weight, and succeeded. She told me that my father gave her flack all the time she was on the diet. Later on my mother gained weight and lost weight several time. Each time the pattern repeating. Even to this day.
I have also heard that behind the scenes of the Biggest Looser many marriages fail. The husbands and wives of the contestants can’t cope with the change and conflicts escalade. So be very careful to your relationship when you decide to lose weight.
Losing weight won’t solve all your problems. It will solve some and create some new ones. But that is life and what living entails. For a longer, healthier and richer life I believe you should lose weight. Don’t you?